I’m sure you guys are tired of hearing about her by now… and I don’t blame you… We only went out for a month and a half, and honestly there was a lot that I should of seen as potentially dangerous… that I did see but chose to ignore.  The reason I’m writing this blog, even though I told myself I wouldn’t talk about her anymore is because I don’t believe that I’ve failed at anything in life… and I don’t plan on starting now.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve messed up before and “failed” in the worlds eyes, but as I see it as long as you learn something from your experience you’ve not failed.  Anyways, on to the list:

1) I’m a very selfish person - this is one of the first things I noticed, almost instantly when I dating Jessica… and I’ve really not done much of anything that wasn’t for me, or that didn’t benefit me in some manor.   Definitely something I’ve got to work on, I’d like to think I’m cured of this, but seeing the problem and admitting it is really only the first step

2) I want kids - maybe not right now… but I do want kids.  I always wondered how I would handle kids because I really don’t have much patience for other humans (over abundance of patience for metal work, and other artistic crafts, just none for humans), but I think I handle kids well… they really are a joy.

3) I’m a lot weaker towards the female gender than I ever imagined - When I’m in a relationship I really do depend more on the affirmation, opinion, and acceptance of that person more so than anything else… which is very bad!!!  Now that I do know it however I’ve been praying about it, and intentionally turning away from pretty girls to take the time and pray to choose God first…

Those really are the biggest 3 things that I learned… or at least have noticed that I learned so far.   One thing I have to say (because I know you’re going to read this) partly because of number 3 I’ve got to watch myself.  One of the reasons I’m feeling much, much better right now is because of an awesome Christian girl who took the time to talk to me and I can’t help myself but like her.  Joanna talked to me all day yesterday and made me feel a ton better… but I’ve got to watch it and make sure that I get things straight with God before I start falling for and flirting with some other girl.  Not to mention I have a tendency to like the idea of a “safe” relationship and 22k km between us makes it safe or however far it was.

tag: christian dating

Online dating is safe…as long as you never intend to meet anyone in the flesh. There is little danger in playful banter through online communications. It gets scary when you have to actually meet face-to-face. Now you have entered the world of real dating and this presents real problems. How can you protect yourself from meeting the wrong “special someone?” How about a background check! After all, the end goal of dating is normally marriage and why would you start down that road with a total stranger. If he/she has something to hide, wouldn’t you like to know about it before you commit yourself.

Tag: eharmony

I notice on many other blogs that talk about online dating websites, they usually put a list of the top 5 dating sites or so. Usually a few always make the list. But, most have one or two that seem to be out of place. They are not very big, most of the time unheard of, and have a very poor alexa rating. I know that they aren’t basing their preferences off the same I am, but to me some of their recommendations just dont make sense. I personally think that the bigger the dating site, the better your chances are of finding singles in your area, based purely on statistics. If you join 2 sites, and one has 5,000 singles in your area, and the other has 25,000 in your city, the odds of finding someone would appear to be greater on the site with more singles. Now quality always plays a role when dealing with dating sites. I also noticed that terrible sites dont do as well as good ones. So you’ll never see a poor quality dating site with an alexa rating of under 1,000 or so. People will chose a better site when there is one available. That being said, here are the top dating sites according to alexa in the United States.

Alexa Rating Per Site in the US

38. AdultFriendFinder

97. Match

140. Fling

143. Singlesnet

212. Hornymatches

235. PlentyofFish

286. Eharmony

Now just because these sites are the biggest in the US does not mean that there aren’t others that are bigger overall. But these are some of the biggest sites are far as alexa ratings go, which is saying how many people visit their website. Remember that a lower rating is better. Google’s rating is 1 in the US for example. Like I said in previous posts, there are constantly new sites coming out, so you’ll have to excuse me if I left out any major sites.

tag: singlesnet